Does this Self Help book work?

Does this Self Help book work?

I first read The Tools by Phil Stutz and Barry Michels around five years ago and disliked its brash ‘fix yourself in a minute’ style. Strangely, having picked it up again recently, I now feel I can recommend the book! Why the change? I think any book that focuses and discusses ‘fear’ is a good thing because there’s not that many books out there doing this. ‘Feel the Fear and do it Anyway’ is of course a classic and definitely worth a read. But what is The Tool’s actually saying? If you get past its sale’sy American style, there is some good advice there that’s sometimes, as a counsellor, difficult to deliver to a client. That fear has a size. And the more you avoid the things that fill you with fear – the greater the fear grows. Now, say you act on that advice and front out the thing you fear – and you don’t get a good outcome – you still gain. How? Well, because the thinking goes that you build an internal strength by facing your demons. Its not about the outcome, its about you. You change your attitude to fear and you feel differently about it inside. This book’s lineage you could say belongs more with the greek Stoic’s concept of courage and fortitude. Given that often counselling starts with a person-centred approach, often it is difficult to fast forward to solution-focused. Experience has shown me that move too fast towards a solution-focused approach and the client is left feeling the counsellor is unempathetic to how they feel. That’s why to hear this message via a book is more acceptable. You don’t ask that the author empathises with your particular issue, ergo you are more likely to listen to its hard assed approach. It’s an easy read too.
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